One of our most popular articles on About Pagan/Wiccan is about Magical Self-Defense and Protection, which details ways to determine whether or not you may be under some form of magical attack, and some basic suggestions on what to do. If you haven’t yet read that article, you should do so before you go any further.
Coming close on the heels of that piece of content is an article about How to Break a Curse or a Hex – if you’re positive that everything that’s going wrong is the result of magical attack, you definitely need to read that article too.
Often, cases such as this arise when you’ve had a falling out with someone who just can’t let go. Whether this is an ex that you’ve broken up with, a co-worker who’s mad that you got a promotion she wanted, or your spouse’s former boyfriend who’s just a vindictive jerk, the common thread is often that they just refuse to back off.
Now, if you’re fortunate enough to know that you’re not currently under any sort of magical or psychic attack, then that’s a good thing. To keep it that way, there are a number of different things you can do – and some of them, believe it or not, are non-magical in nature. By combining mundane actions with magical ones, you can prevent magical attacks from even being an issue. This is especially important if there’s someone in your life that you may have angered, and that individual has the magical know-how to come after you with a curse or a hex, and (perhaps more importantly) is willing to use such methods against you.
Much like in sports, often the best defense is a good offense. Preparation in advance can save you a lot of hassle later on.
Get Rid of Their Stuff
Do you still have personal belongings that are the other person’s? Get rid of them. Return the jewelry, the tee shirts, those mix CDs you have in your car, all of it. Photos? Give them back, or dispose of them. These are all things that tie you to the other person. Most importantly, don’t accept any more gifts from the individual. If they offer you something, refuse to accept it.
Sometimes, there’s not much you can do about this – if you work with the individual, for instance, you may get stuck seeing them in the elevator or at the monthly staff meeting, or even every morning on the other side of the cubicle farm. But what you can do is avoid any more contact than absolutely necessary. Don’t engage in conversation if it can be helped.
If this is someone from your personal life, rather than your professional life, it’s often a lot easier to avoid them. Delete them from your social media accounts – and that means you, too, need to not be creeping on their Facebook or Instagram pages. Block their phone number, and don’t let them text you.
If you don’t have any way to eliminate contact completely – for example, your spouse’s ex who comes over every Friday to drop off the kids – then carry a protective stone in your pocket. Stones such as hematite, tourmaline, and obsidian are all useful in both protecting you and in deflecting negative energies.
In the day and age of social media, it’s pretty easy to find out anything you’d like to learn about anyone. If you and the person you’re trying to avoid have mutual friends, make sure that you’ve got maximum privacy settings enabled. You don’t want your crazy ex to know that you’re home alone tomorrow afternoon just because your Aunt Karen commented about it on Facebook. Sharing information that’s going to make its way back to an enemy is a bad idea all around.
This same tip holds true for non-social media. If it’s a co-worker who’s got the potential to cause you problems, be sure not to share too much personal information at work. Keep things private that should remain private. If you know your best friend is still chatty with your psycho ex-boyfriend, then don't tell your friend things that will get passed along (and maybe consider re-evaluating the friendship entirely).
Obviously, you can use magical methods in tandem with all of the above. Use basic shielding techniques to help keep psychic attacks to a minimum. Also, remember above where we talked about giving things back? Make sure you get your stuff back too – if you’ve left a hairbrush, your favorite shirt, and that photo of you and your enemy on the beach in Malibu in a place where the other person has access to them, you’re setting yourself up for potential magical disaster. All of your stuff becomes a magical link in the hands of someone who knows what they're doing.
If the person has lived in your home, make sure you do a thorough cleansing. Often, this includes things like smudging, but it’s also a good idea to do a complete physical cleaning as well. Get rid of the old energy that’s nesting in the corners with your dust bunnies.
Got deities in your life? Call upon them to help keep an eye on you. It’s a good idea, in general, not to wait until things get bad to have a relationship with the Divine. Make friends with them when everything is okay, and you’ll have a better chance of reaching out to them when you need their assistance later.
Finally, don’t rule out the power of protective magic. Throughout the ages, there has been folklore about the different forms of magic you can use for different types of protection. Use as many of these as you think is necessary to prevent psychic attack.