A reader writes in with an interesting dilemma. He says, "My family wants to have a big Thanksgiving celebration, but I don't want to participate. I object to this holiday as a protest of the treatment of Native Americans by my white ancestors. Any ideas on how I can survive Turkey Day and still hold true to my Pagan ideals?"
You know, there are certainly some people in the Pagan community, and not just Native Americans, who feel that the day everyone calls Thanksgiving should instead be a day of mourning rather than celebration. Personally, I've always thought Thanksgiving was a silly holiday anyway, because I'm thankful for stuff all year long, but that's just me. And in some families, really, you have to pick your battles. With the holidays approaching, it's a tricky balance to find indeed. Sometimes, the best you can hope for is to educate your family a little bit if it really means that much to you. However, it's important to keep in mind that Thanksgiving is a secular holiday and not a religious one - and also that there's no Big Pagan Mandate against it. If you personally object to it, then go with what your heart is telling you to do.
Here are some ideas on how you can deal with this dilemma: Pagans and Thanksgiving
Also, readers, chime in! Do any of you refuse to participate in Thanksgiving? Or should we all just sit down and eat our turkey, and save our protesting for another day? Chime in down in the Comments section, and tell us what you think.